Hey, Doctor. I've been on your site for quite a while, and found it super useful and relatable, with plenty of great advice. For reference, I'm a 24 year old male with zero relationship experience. Never had sex, never been in a relationship, never kissed anyone, never even held hands. The most I can say I've done is been on one casual date that didn't really end up going anywhere. I've struggled with clinical depression all my life, something I only was cognizant of a couple years ago (I've ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the weird things that comes up when you write about topics like sex, self-improvement or relationships is how often you face the question of whether or not to mine your own life for content. On the one hand, it's one of the oldest and hoariest cliches for columnists and essayists to use their own lived experiences as fodder for material. It can feel... well, kinda hacky in some ways. It can feel as though you're trying to sell the idea that you live this crazy, adventurous or glamorous...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
So, I'm gonna do something a little different today. There're some letters I get over and over again. Not from the same person, but variations on an incredibly common theme. There are some letters and topics that come up so often with the same insecurities, often using identical language, that it seems pretty obvious they're coming from the same place, literally and metaphorically. And just between you, me and everyone reading this… it gets a bit frustrating. I mean, it's not like I haven't...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Videos about 'looksmaxxing' have convinced him he's ugly. Does he REALLY need to spend thousands of dollars to be handsome enough to date?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Being a man, particularly a straight, cisgendered man, can be a perverse paradox at times. Society caters to us in almost every way imaginable. Even in 2021, as we strive towards greater social and sexual equity for people of different genders and sexualities, straight cis men are very much at the top of the social heap. And yet, men are lonelier and more isolated than ever, feeling not just lost but ignored or cast aside. It seems laughable; society caters to straight men to an absurd deg...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Every woman he meets on dating apps ghosts him after he tells them what he does for work. Does he need to find a better job or is there another option?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's pretty happy with the progress he's made. But is it enough? What should he do about the nagging voice that says he needs to be the 'ideal' man to date?| Paging Dr. NerdLove