Hey, Doctor. I've been on your site for quite a while, and found it super useful and relatable, with plenty of great advice. For reference, I'm a 24 year old male with zero relationship experience. Never had sex, never been in a relationship, never kissed anyone, never even held hands. The most I can say I've done is been on one casual date that didn't really end up going anywhere. I've struggled with clinical depression all my life, something I only was cognizant of a couple years ago (I've ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I have a serious question for you: are you someone who plays to win, or who plays to avoid losing? Most folks would say that, yes, they absolutely play to win. Even if they're not the sort of min/maxing, loophole-finding, cutthroat gamesman who makes board game night a flaming hellscape, people will generally say that when they play, their goal is to make a sincere effort at winning. However, if you look at people's dating life, you'd be forgiven for thinking that not only are they not playi...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Being a man, particularly a straight, cisgendered man, can be a perverse paradox at times. Society caters to us in almost every way imaginable. Even in 2021, as we strive towards greater social and sexual equity for people of different genders and sexualities, straight cis men are very much at the top of the social heap. And yet, men are lonelier and more isolated than ever, feeling not just lost but ignored or cast aside. It seems laughable; society caters to straight men to an absurd deg...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's got tons of female friends who think he's an amazing catch... but none of the single ladies around seem to agree. Why is he always getting shot down in flames?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I spend a lot of time working with men who want to get better at dating women. This ranges from guys who're trying to recover from a bad break-up, guys who spend so much time in the Friend Zone that they could run for political office there and even men who've never so much as held hands with someone, never mind asked a woman out on a date. In all that time I've noticed something important: The men who struggle the most with dating always — always — ask the wrong question. Every single t...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's told he's a catch and women like him, yet he's sitting by himself while other men are getting approached. What is he doing wrong?| Paging Dr. NerdLove