A large number of the emails I get for Ask Dr. NerdLove, both here and at Kotaku start off the same way: 'I've never had a girlfriend'. Many my readers have a lot of anxiety over finding their first relationship. In fact, many feel that they're essentially doomed because they've never seriously ((for suitably variable definitions of 'serious')) dated anyone before. They see the large gap in their relationship resume as a glaring, unmissable flaw, as though asking somebody out were applyin...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Emotional intelligence is one of those traits that tends to be woefully underdeveloped in men. Call it part of the toxic masculinity package; when things like 'having feelings' are treated as a weakness, men are taught to bottle them up and pretend they don't exist. It's not terribly surprising. After all, what's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear 'get in touch with your emotions'? In all likelihood, it's an absurd image of men sitting in a circle, crying like little girls ((No,...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
On Monday, we talked about how to know if someone was right woman for you. This week, I want to expand on that; after all, it's all just a theoretical exercise unless you're actually able to meet her. And I get a lot of questions from people about 'where to meet women'. And while I've covered this many times, it's important to realize that sometimes this isn't the question you need to be asking. After all, women are literally everywhere. Go outside, look around, there they are. But -...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's an aspiring wife-guy looking for the muscle-mommy of his dreams. What's the best way for a less-masculine man to meet an amazon?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
So, I'm gonna do something a little different today. There're some letters I get over and over again. Not from the same person, but variations on an incredibly common theme. There are some letters and topics that come up so often with the same insecurities, often using identical language, that it seems pretty obvious they're coming from the same place, literally and metaphorically. And just between you, me and everyone reading this… it gets a bit frustrating. I mean, it's not like I haven't...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Recently, we’ve been talking about toxic masculinity and all of the ways that it damages men on the individual level and society on the whole. One of the enduring questions is: so what do we do about it. Part of the way we start end the damage that toxic masculinity does and help heal some of the pain is to talk openly and honestly about some of the issues that come bundled in the toxic masculinity package. And one of the biggest issues is the topic of sex - especially how it affects men wh...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's always heard that women don't want to have to 'teach' men when it comes to sex and dating. Should he hide that he's never had a girlfriend?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
