Doctor's Note: this column was originally published on 9/18/17 It's not a stretch to say that dating is something of a contact sport. Signing up for it means that you're accepting that you might get hurt. Opening yourself up to people means being willing to risk a broken heart. No matter how carefully you plan or how much you try to protect yourself, eventually you're going to have to learn to deal with pain and rejection. Sometimes you see it bearing down on you like a freight train. Other t...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Welcome to 2014 folks. It's a new year and ripe for potential and improvement. If you're like most folks, you've made some New Year's resolutions. Perhaps getting better at dating is one of them... Usually around this time, I make my annual tirade about how New Year's resolutions are wastes of time but I want to do things differently. You see, one of the reasons why so many resolutions fail is that you're addressing surface issues rather than the core causes. For example, f you're trying...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One thing I've learned over the years - both through my own experiences and from coaching others - is that men are all quivering bundles of anxieties and insecurities. We're not allowed to actually, y'know, voice most of these concerns - goes against Man Code, after all - but we sure as hell feel them. And it's that inability to actually voice our fears or anxieties that lets other people prey on them with snake-oil and horse shit. After all, why bother actually talking to somebody when y...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Women often say that they want a nice guy, so why do so many of them think that nice guys are THE WORST? The trouble is that Nice Guy's behavior works against them; what they see as positive and respectful is actually pushing people away. Here's why being a Nice Guy drives women away... and why it can be so hard to STOP being a Nice Guy. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS: What 'Nice Guy' behavior says about them Why 'treating her like a queen' is actually unattractive How Nice Guys ruin their relationships Th...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Dear Dr. NerdLove, I've been together with my boyfriend for a cumulative 5 months. We were head over heels for each other almost immediately. It was like something out of an Avril Lavigne song - he was a video game animator, she was a model, what more can I say? His father had passed away a year ago, and he immediately started to treat me like the only bright spot in his life. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, and was so grateful to him for legitimately wanting me to be happy ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
