Everyone is going to have awkward moments. It's a universal truth: no matter how cool or accomplished you are, you will do things that will make you cringe so hard your skin will crawl off you. Even people you suspect have everything together can feel awkward and uncomfortable. Chris Evans may be the living incarnation of Captain America, but he's also an awkward mess at times. If Steve Rogers gets terrified at dealing with social issues, who else might? Of course, for many of us, those a...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I want to talk to you for a moment about a client I had. He, like a lot of my coaching clients, wanted to know what it takes to be someone women want to date. This caught me off guard; this was a guy who had a lot going for him. He was tall, good looking and fun to talk to. And yet, he didn't struggle with meeting women so much as failed to so much as look at them. Never mind striking out, the guy got the screaming abdabs just thinking about going up to the plate. Once we identified just| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I have a serious question for you: are you someone who plays to win, or who plays to avoid losing? Most folks would say that, yes, they absolutely play to win. Even if they're not the sort of min/maxing, loophole-finding, cutthroat gamesman who makes board game night a flaming hellscape, people will generally say that when they play, their goal is to make a sincere effort at winning. However, if you look at people's dating life, you'd be forgiven for thinking that not only are they not playi...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Dear Dr. NerdLove: A common truism you hear a lot about dating is 'You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else'. I'm bringing that up so I can tie dating to something I want to pick your brain on, which is about self-love. I find the messaging around how one should feel about themselves to be confusing to navigate. One hand, it's generally understood one should learn to be humble and self-critical, because the mind is naturally biased towards itself and will resist he...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's made a lot of improvements to his life but he's still getting rejected. How can he stop letting the frustration get to him?| Paging Dr. NerdLove