Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove: So, my husband & I have been married close to 4 years now. I love this man very very deeply but, I’m concerned that maybe he doesn’t feel sexually attracted to me anymore. Maybe I’m not as pretty as I once before or maybe he’s even fell out of love me. I’m not sure what is going on at this point. All I do know is the way he has me feeling about myself is affecting me mentally, emotionally & physically at this point. Our sex life ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the hardest things that people face over the course of a long-term relationship is that the initial spark - what many in the polyamory community call 'new relationship energy' - fades. It's an entirely natural part of settling into a relationship; the initial honeymoon period fades and what was intense and exciting becomes calmer and placid. That initial rush of passion that had you banging out on every flat surface in the house and made every vaguely empty space a potential fuckstop...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have an awkward or intimidating conversation you'd rather avoid. There's no getting around it. No relationship you'll ever have, whether it's with friends, family or lovers, will be without problems. If you've got two (or more) humans together, conflict is pretty much inevitable. It's easy in the early days, when great sex, or even just the thrill and novelty of a new relationship can paper over a lot of sins. When you're busy bang...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's 39, on the spectrum, lives with his parents and still a virgin. How can he get over this late start and finally start dating?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I spend a lot of time working with men who want to get better at dating women. This ranges from guys who're trying to recover from a bad break-up, guys who spend so much time in the Friend Zone that they could run for political office there and even men who've never so much as held hands with someone, never mind asked a woman out on a date. In all that time I've noticed something important: The men who struggle the most with dating always — always — ask the wrong question. Every single t...| Paging Dr. NerdLove