He wants to meet and date women but he feels like their lives are so different from his that they can't understand him. How can he learn to relate to women?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hello Doc! Long time reader first time writer. Your column has hit really close to home many times and I figured it couldn’t hurt to get your take on my situation. I am a hyper-independent female with a relatively active social life and am good with the opposite sex and dating. Sounds great right? Where’s the catch you ask? My problem starts when the sexy time ends and attachment begins. To be super cliché, I don’t do love, rather I don’t feel love, at least not the hearts and flutte...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He knows he has the skills to be more social, but he's still having a hard time connecting with people. How do you fix a problem you don't know you have?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Every man she dates treats her like a therapist or secretary. She has needs and would like support too. How can she get men to see her as a person?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
There comes a point in every relationship where you have to have an awkward or intimidating conversation you'd rather avoid. There's no getting around it. No relationship you'll ever have, whether it's with friends, family or lovers, will be without problems. If you've got two (or more) humans together, conflict is pretty much inevitable. It's easy in the early days, when great sex, or even just the thrill and novelty of a new relationship can paper over a lot of sins. When you're busy bang...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Welcome to 2014 folks. It's a new year and ripe for potential and improvement. If you're like most folks, you've made some New Year's resolutions. Perhaps getting better at dating is one of them... Usually around this time, I make my annual tirade about how New Year's resolutions are wastes of time but I want to do things differently. You see, one of the reasons why so many resolutions fail is that you're addressing surface issues rather than the core causes. For example, f you're trying...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the weird things that comes up when you write about topics like sex, self-improvement or relationships is how often you face the question of whether or not to mine your own life for content. On the one hand, it's one of the oldest and hoariest cliches for columnists and essayists to use their own lived experiences as fodder for material. It can feel... well, kinda hacky in some ways. It can feel as though you're trying to sell the idea that you live this crazy, adventurous or glamorous...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Occasionally, I'll get an email from a reader who isn't asking for advice so much as they are asking for permission. And nine times out of ten, what they're asking for is permission to break up with their significant other... because they can't manage to convince themselves that they need to. One of the most perverse aspects of being human is how hard we fight against our own best interests. Our brains are prone to a host of psychological effects and fallacies that convince us that we s...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
