He was doing ok with dating until COVID happened. After the lockdown lifted, his love life fell off a cliff and never recovered. What should he do?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Getting better at dating is hard enough. It gets even harder when it feels like your own mind is fighting back against your attempts to improve yourself. When I was younger, I used to be a chronic insomniac. I'd be physically tired, but I could never actually get to sleep; my body would be exhausted but I could never get my brain to quiet down long enough for me to relax and pass out. Every night became an exercise in what I called 'riding the maelstrom' ((Because when you're a young nerd, e...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the weird things that comes up when you write about topics like sex, self-improvement or relationships is how often you face the question of whether or not to mine your own life for content. On the one hand, it's one of the oldest and hoariest cliches for columnists and essayists to use their own lived experiences as fodder for material. It can feel... well, kinda hacky in some ways. It can feel as though you're trying to sell the idea that you live this crazy, adventurous or glamorous...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
On Monday, we talked about how to know if someone was right woman for you. This week, I want to expand on that; after all, it's all just a theoretical exercise unless you're actually able to meet her. And I get a lot of questions from people about 'where to meet women'. And while I've covered this many times, it's important to realize that sometimes this isn't the question you need to be asking. After all, women are literally everywhere. Go outside, look around, there they are. But -...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Videos about 'looksmaxxing' have convinced him he's ugly. Does he REALLY need to spend thousands of dollars to be handsome enough to date?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hi, I’m gonna keep my name private but I truly hope that you are having a great day and I hope your writing has brought fulfilment to your life as well as in the lives of your readers. With that said I wanted to ask you a question, I essentially want to know if you’re serious or if your take on women is just for clicks because it runs so contrary to everything I’ve seen. To me it seems pretty obvious that the “toxic masculinity” you think is evil is 100% (and yes I do mean 100%) per...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Ever have a problem where you keep dating the 'wrong' person over and over again? Do you keep wondering why every woman seems to be awesome... but they never seem to work out? Have you gotten caught up in a cycle where you date someone and it's amazing in the early stages, but it explodes spectacularly by the time you get past the three month mark? Have you been wondering why you just can't ever seem to find someone who's right for you? It's actually an incredibly common problem. Guys are ve...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own. If you've ever wondered whether she's 'the one', or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distanc...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 16 minutes Dear Doctor NerdLove, Long time reader and bona-fide straight woman here. Something struck me in your latest column, 'What Makes A Man Attractive to Women?' The LW lists examples of 'unattractive' men that masc-attracted women 'claim' are hot to illustrate their question. This time, it was Pete Davidson (I only get the appeal in the academic sense there, so I sort of understand the LW's confusion) and 'that guy from The Bear.' And it honestly took me a sec...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's in his late 20s, chronically single and running out of time to reach his dream of marrying young and starting a large family. What should he do?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
