#post_contentWhat is pseudo self and where does it come from?| Harvesting Stones
I've been thinking about loyalty recently. Loyalty is one of my bigger rabbit holes. I most often use the term when I'm beating myself up. A nasty little internal voice frequently hisses "Disloyal!" in my ear. This happens so constantly, in fact, that I'm bored. I've decided to unpack the concept of loyalty, spread it What does loyalty really mean? How does it look?| Harvesting Stones
I’ve struggled all my life with confusion about the difference between enabling and love. Most of us think of enabling in the context of addiction, and we’re familiar with the idea that helping an addict avoid the consequences of their addiction is not, in the long run, useful. It’s a pretty clear idea in theory. Enabling: what it is, why we do it, and why it doesn't work| Harvesting Stones
#post_contentPart one of understanding boundaries| Harvesting Stones
Making and communicating honest choices; why it matters| Harvesting Stones
#post_contentExploring the value and practice of letting go| Harvesting Stones
#post_contentArguing with versus accepting what is| Harvesting Stones
#post_contentExploring the complexity of communication| Harvesting Stones
One of my favorite things about life is that changing one subtle thread in the pattern of our behavior and identity can change the whole picture in unexpected but beautiful ways. The overculture promises such a transformation if we buy the right product, but that’s a hollow promise. If we really want change, we have Being over-responsible for others versus being under-responsible for ourselves; learning to switch our unhealthy patterns around responsibility| Harvesting Stones
The word “respect” is jumping up and down in my life this week, hand thrust in the air, saying “me, me, me!” This post started with more from R. D. Laing’s book, Knots: "A son should respect his father. He should not have to be taught to respect his father. It is something that is Considering respect: what it looks like, what it means. Is respect the same as agreement?| Harvesting Stones
#post_contentUnderstanding and recognizing the power of needs| Harvesting Stones
Managing expectations and recognizing how limited they are| Harvesting Stones
When I underwent emotional intelligence training, my coach asked me the question, “Chocolate or vanilla?” over and over. Now, my partner and I use that phrase frequently as we live our life together. It always makes me smile. Life is ridiculously complicated. At other times, it’s ridiculously simple. Our experience lies in the heart of The power inherent in intentional choice; how often we abdicate that power and stay stuck and disempowered| Harvesting Stones