Guys spend a lot of time worrying about whether they should or shouldn't approach women they're attracted to. It's an incredibly common component of approach anxiety; you want to go introduce yourself to that cute woman you see, but you're afraid of getting rejected or being another unwelcome interruption in her day. But here's a secret you should know: women worry about rejection and humiliation just as much as men do - more so, in many cases, as many men react badly to being approached. A...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's an aspiring wife-guy looking for the muscle-mommy of his dreams. What's the best way for a less-masculine man to meet an amazon?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
So, I'm gonna do something a little different today. There're some letters I get over and over again. Not from the same person, but variations on an incredibly common theme. There are some letters and topics that come up so often with the same insecurities, often using identical language, that it seems pretty obvious they're coming from the same place, literally and metaphorically. And just between you, me and everyone reading this… it gets a bit frustrating. I mean, it's not like I haven't...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Being a man, particularly a straight, cisgendered man, can be a perverse paradox at times. Society caters to us in almost every way imaginable. Even in 2021, as we strive towards greater social and sexual equity for people of different genders and sexualities, straight cis men are very much at the top of the social heap. And yet, men are lonelier and more isolated than ever, feeling not just lost but ignored or cast aside. It seems laughable; society caters to straight men to an absurd deg...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 16 minutes Dear Doctor NerdLove, Long time reader and bona-fide straight woman here. Something struck me in your latest column, 'What Makes A Man Attractive to Women?' The LW lists examples of 'unattractive' men that masc-attracted women 'claim' are hot to illustrate their question. This time, it was Pete Davidson (I only get the appeal in the academic sense there, so I sort of understand the LW's confusion) and 'that guy from The Bear.' And it honestly took me a sec...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Every woman he meets on dating apps ghosts him after he tells them what he does for work. Does he need to find a better job or is there another option?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's pretty happy with the progress he's made. But is it enough? What should he do about the nagging voice that says he needs to be the 'ideal' man to date?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
