I Want To Feel Sexier. What Should I Do? - Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's a decent looking guy , but he wants to be SEXY. How can he be the hot, desirable man of his wife's Bridgerton-esque dreams?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's a decent looking guy , but he wants to be SEXY. How can he be the hot, desirable man of his wife's Bridgerton-esque dreams?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He wants to meet and date women but he feels like their lives are so different from his that they can't understand him. How can he learn to relate to women?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hello Doc! Long time reader first time writer. Your column has hit really close to home many times and I figured it couldn’t hurt to get your take on my situation. I am a hyper-independent female with a relatively active social life and am good with the opposite sex and dating. Sounds great right? Where’s the catch you ask? My problem starts when the sexy time ends and attachment begins. To be super cliché, I don’t do love, rather I don’t feel love, at least not the hearts and flutte...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Let's talk a little about relationship longevity. Most relationships aren't going to have what it takes to go the distance. In fact, many relationships simply can't last because of a simple fact: you're not sexually compatible. It may not seem like it at first, while you're caught up in the throes of new relationship energy. Even if you're not quite at the same level, you believe You see, new relationships are easy. All those chemicals flooding your brain - the deluge of oxytocin and dop...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 17 minutes Hi Dr. NerdLove. I’ve been an enormous fan of yours for a while. From my perspective, your works (online dating books in particular) make it easier to navigate the material barriers to say the technologically not savvy. I bring up barriers for a specific reason, as you shall read. I met a woman at my best friend’s wedding. It’s his step-sister and we felt a connection pretty quickly. After giving me her number, three weeks passed and we went on an intr...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove: So, my husband & I have been married close to 4 years now. I love this man very very deeply but, I’m concerned that maybe he doesn’t feel sexually attracted to me anymore. Maybe I’m not as pretty as I once before or maybe he’s even fell out of love me. I’m not sure what is going on at this point. All I do know is the way he has me feeling about myself is affecting me mentally, emotionally & physically at this point. Our sex life ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
His fiancee's stayed in the same dead-end job for years and there's no change in sight. Is it bad that he's frustrated by her inaction?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Straight talk: there are two phrases that a woman can say that will instill ball-shrinking terror in the heart of every man. The first is 'We need to talk.' The second is 'Where do you think this relationship is going?' It's the dreaded 'Defining The Relationship' talk... and nobody ever looks forward to it. The DTR talk has achieved an almost mythical level of terror amongst people - especially men, because it almost always comes at the worst possible moment, and suddenly you have to make de...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the hardest things that people face over the course of a long-term relationship is that the initial spark - what many in the polyamory community call 'new relationship energy' - fades. It's an entirely natural part of settling into a relationship; the initial honeymoon period fades and what was intense and exciting becomes calmer and placid. That initial rush of passion that had you banging out on every flat surface in the house and made every vaguely empty space a potential fuckstop...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's afraid his porn habit is getting in the way of meeting women. Does he really need to kick his 'addiction' to find love?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Here's something that most relationship coaches aren't going to tell you: fights are a part of relationships. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can learn how to stop fighting. Doesn't seem like that makes sense, does it? Stick with me here for a second and you'll understand. Relationships are kind of like Fight Club: if you're you're dating someone, you're going to fight. There's no getting around it. It's the inevitable result of being in a relationship with another person - ther...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
They had been enjoying their stag/vixen arrangement until a series of mistakes ruined everything. How can he get over his jealousy and get his groove back?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the hardest things to keep in mind when it comes to dating is that the work doesn't end just because you're in a relationship. It's easy to get tunnel vision, especially when you've been working so hard at the early stages - developing your approach, learning how to generate attraction, etc. - that once you start having some successes... you don't know quite what to do next. We're taught to have unrealistic expectations about relationships; even when we understand intellectually that ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hi Doc, This isn’t really a relationship question but if anyone would know how to advise a socially awkward introvert, it’s you! Let’s start with some background on me. I’m a 26 year old woman with social anxiety and depression (currently in therapy and on pills) and suspected Aspergers or ADHD too (awaiting an assessment). I’m an only child, and I grew up with parents who weren’t close to their own families, so Christmas was usually just the three of us and I didn’t see much of...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
His girlfriend asked for an open relationship. What started off as a source of anxiety and pain is now amazing… so why does he feel so conflicted?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's a softer, more submissive guy who wants to be the one to be romanced. How can a less assertive man find a more aggressive, take-charge woman?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's an aspiring wife-guy looking for the muscle-mommy of his dreams. What's the best way for a less-masculine man to meet an amazon?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He feels like being an older virgin is the worst thing he can be. Is he right? Or is there a bigger problem that he needs to address?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
She's got a solid group of friends for the first time in her life. But will trying to find love mean giving up her new social circle?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's told he's a catch and women like him, yet he's sitting by himself while other men are getting approached. What is he doing wrong?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
