Back in the bad old days, I did a lot of things I regret out of jealousy. Pretty much from middle-school onwards, jealousy defined the majority of my waking life. Everywhere I looked, other people had what I thought I wanted in life. Watching happy couples would alternately make me feel lonely and almost sick with envy. Watching movies meant watching people with lives - and relationships - that I wished I could have. Of course, it didn't help that I was surrounded by people who seemed to ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the weird things that comes up when you write about topics like sex, self-improvement or relationships is how often you face the question of whether or not to mine your own life for content. On the one hand, it's one of the oldest and hoariest cliches for columnists and essayists to use their own lived experiences as fodder for material. It can feel... well, kinda hacky in some ways. It can feel as though you're trying to sell the idea that you live this crazy, adventurous or glamorous...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He has severe ADHD and has struggled to learn to live with it. His roommate thinks he's a lazy slob. How can he get her to understand his condition?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
She's getting ready to move to another country to be with her boyfriend. Will the stress end their relationship before it can even start?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
What makes one relationship last, while another falls apart? Why do you seem to have found your dream relationship, only to have it turn into a nightmare? Your partner may seem perfect, but it takes more than shallow commonalities to make a relationship work. Just because things are amazing in the beginning doesn't mean that everything is going to work out on it's own. If you've ever wondered whether she's 'the one', or you want to know if your relationship has what it takes to go the distanc...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Dear Dr. NerdLove: A common truism you hear a lot about dating is 'You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else'. I'm bringing that up so I can tie dating to something I want to pick your brain on, which is about self-love. I find the messaging around how one should feel about themselves to be confusing to navigate. One hand, it's generally understood one should learn to be humble and self-critical, because the mind is naturally biased towards itself and will resist he...| Paging Dr. NerdLove