One of the hardest things that people face over the course of a long-term relationship is that the initial spark - what many in the polyamory community call 'new relationship energy' - fades. It's an entirely natural part of settling into a relationship; the initial honeymoon period fades and what was intense and exciting becomes calmer and placid. That initial rush of passion that had you banging out on every flat surface in the house and made every vaguely empty space a potential fuckstop...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He wants to develop an abundance mentality for his love life, but how can you do that when you never find anyone who wants to date you?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Here's something that most relationship coaches aren't going to tell you: fights are a part of relationships. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can learn how to stop fighting. Doesn't seem like that makes sense, does it? Stick with me here for a second and you'll understand. Relationships are kind of like Fight Club: if you're you're dating someone, you're going to fight. There's no getting around it. It's the inevitable result of being in a relationship with another person - ther...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
One of the hardest things to keep in mind when it comes to dating is that the work doesn't end just because you're in a relationship. It's easy to get tunnel vision, especially when you've been working so hard at the early stages - developing your approach, learning how to generate attraction, etc. - that once you start having some successes... you don't know quite what to do next. We're taught to have unrealistic expectations about relationships; even when we understand intellectually that ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
They're getting ready to spice up their marriage. How can they make sure that this is a fun sexy adventure and not an impending disaster?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
