The father could also snuff out the candle early or add a second candle depending on what he deemed necessary. The courting candle served as a quiet, yet firm reminder to the suitor to end his date. It taught daughters to respect their parents’ judgment as well as demonstrating to suitors the father’s ability to judge a man.| The Victorian Historian
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