1. “I told you so” Polite: “This outcome is consistent with our earlier discussions.” 2. “That’s not my problem.” Polite: “That falls outside my current scope of responsibility.” 3. “You messed up.” Polite: “There appears to have been an oversight that we’ll need to address.” 4. “I don’t care.” Polite: “That’s not a priority for…| rochemamabolo
Shot of two coworkers talking together while sitting in an office We live in a world that worships the sharp tongue and the quick reply. A world that rewards the loudest voice in the meeting, the w…| rochemamabolo
0. It occurs to me, that often, what an outsider gets wrong when dabbling in another field isn’t just the complex cutting edge stuff, or the intermediate complexity stuff, but the absolute basics. It’s not that the basics are necessarily simple, it’s just that everyone in the field knows them, having absorbed them from colleagues, […]| Diagram Monkey
My phone stopped in mid-scroll during my beagle's dry-heaving event. Little did I know the Let Them Theory would influence my life even before I cleaned up Tucker's puke.| Claudette | Writer of Words etc
As always, thanks to everyone who sent in questions. You truly strive diligently to increase quality outputs. Another one from Romania, which seems to have been pretty “on the nose” for a Commie regime. I don’t read Romanian, but that sure looks like “something something you might actually get some basic consumer goods, if and … Continue reading "Friday Mailbag"| Founding Questions
Aug. 15, 2025 (Spaceweather.com): Solar activity might be doing more than sparking auroras. A new study in Communications Medicine suggests it could be nudging your blood pressure, too. Researchers…| Spaceweather.com
Autism and I are always underestimated and treated like a child, especially by people who don’t know me. I get it! I am a bundle of contradictions. I can read and understand novels like To Kill A Mockingbird, yet I also read Dr. Seuss books. I love watching adult movies and shows with my family, […]| The Autistic Mind Finally Speaks
As I look at the words in my morning journal the past few months, my emotional healing challenge is obvious: Shattered and scattered. Disheartened. Anxiously waiting. Slogging through the mud. Hard to get out of bed. I am learning to live in a world that spins on while mine feels like it has stopped. Other’s lives … Continue reading My Inner Fight Continues| retirementtransition
This week continued my emotional healing process. With no forward motion yet on the house recovery, the emotional healing is definitely feeling up and down. There’s been multiple times where my inn…| retirementtransition
Two therapy dogs, Ghillie and Cecilia, getting ready for a child client One of the most frustrating parts of what I write about is getting people to realize that they don’t know stuff, and th…| It's About Empathy - Connection Ties Us Together
Most businesses are trained to chase efficiency, margins, and growth. Caring often looks like an “extra” something you do after you’ve hit your sales target. But the irony is this: when you genuine…| rochemamabolo
Stay updated with Blakeyeo.com Celebrity News – breaking stories, today’s updates, and insightful gossip from the global entertainment world.| Baddiehu
Why are Americans traveling to Costa Rica to drink a hallucinogenic brew? Kinga Philipps joined them to find out.| InsideHook
Every so often, I go on a digital spring cleaning spree—taking stock of how I’ve been using technology, deciding what feels manageable, tightening privacy settings, and clearing out digital c…| Retirement Reflections
Last Thursday, I mentioned a little project I’ve taken on, inspired by a post from Dr. Gerald Stein titled “The Questions We Don’t Ask.” Sometimes we’re quick to judge others, or place expectations on them that we don’t even meet ourselves. Dr. Stein’s questions are uncomfortable, but I believe taking the time to reflect on … Continue reading The Questions We Don’t Ask—And Why They Matter→| Thoughts about leadership, history, and more
Alrighty, the wellness post/excess baggage update. Given we’ve just clicked over into the second half…| And Anyways…
I love coding. I love writing. I love writing about coding, as evidenced by the archives of this blog and the multiple tech books I have written. I’ve always prided myself on being able to explain things clearly. I have a unique ability to identify the order in which to teach concepts. I have enough five star reviews on my books to know that there are plenty of readers out there who agree with me.| Dusty Phillips Codes
Thanks as always to everyone who sent in questions. Please, take a medal from the barrel. Nate Winchester brings us a graphic of note: There it is. It’s important to note that this is “…| Founding Questions
In the early days of my retirement, I read about the concept of morning pages in Julia Camerson’s The Artist Way. In the way of many things in retirement, I “tried it on.” It stuck. I’ve been an avid morning journal writer ever since. My morning journal time has become almost necessary to my well-being … Continue reading Stop the Broken Record| retirementtransition
My thanks to author Mary Poffenroth for a review copy of this book and additional materials via BookTasters. Fear is a natural emotion that all of us experience in a variety of situations and for a variety of reasons, one that can serve as a warning or assist us in other ways, yet it is…| Literary Potpourri
I’ll never be a consistent weeknoter – at least in the sense of consistently posting week by week. I’m consistent in my irregularity – I just looked and it’s almost exactly a year since my last one. So this is December 2024. I’ve been looking forward to this (in the way that people say to … Continue reading Weeknote 24-49→| Perfect Path
Synchronicity continues to amaze me and in the past few weeks it was all about self-care. Perhaps the Universe was telling me what I needed to notice more for my own emotional healing? First, I was inspired by a blog post from everydayGyaan (link here ) to look at what self-care practices did I engage … Continue reading Noticing What I Need| retirementtransition
Given the current state of America — polarized politics, climate anxiety, technological overload, and an ever-spinning wheel of noise — have you ever wondered what it might be like to walk away? To…| Atkins Bookshelf
I’ve been walking around as a head without a body for quite a while now. I wish someone would have said something to me because surely it was noticeable. “Hey! You forgot to put a body with that head of yours!” Are people in this town really too shy to bring such things to a […]| Chasing Mailboxes
When I feel like writing, but don’t have anything to write about (like Orwell’s sneering caricature of self-important Writers from the Thirties: “One doesn’t write about any…| Founding Questions
There’s something comforting about a mountain. It doesn’t bark for attention. It doesn’t shout about its greatness. It just stands, solid, silent, steady, through storms, seasons, centuries. That’s…| rochemamabolo
In every room, in every family, in every team, there’s often at least one person whose gift is invisible: the one who holds space. They’re not always the loudest or the first to raise a hand. They …| rochemamabolo
Some people’s work comes with trophies and hashtags and standing ovations. But for most of us, our best work happens in moments no one sees, when we choose to show up fully for the task at hand, wi…| rochemamabolo
We live in an age that glorifies the spotlight. Be visible. Be heard. Be the brand. Be the voice. Be the main character in every story, every room, every conversation. But life, in its quiet honest…| rochemamabolo
To love is to live with an open hand, knowing that what you hold may not stay. It’s to pour out your tenderness without a receipt, to offer your presence without terms, to say yes to connection whi…| rochemamabolo
What was meant to unite us, our voices, our platforms, our digital commonsm, has, in so many ways, driven us apart. Once, we looked into another’s eyes and asked, “How are you, really?” Now we look…| rochemamabolo
I’m not sure if my current struggle with anger is due to being in emotional healing from the trauma of losing our home and most of our possessions or if it is something I’ve always struggled with. Maybe the current struggle is because my normal way to deal with anger is suppression…and suppression is definitely … Continue reading Boundaries and Anger| retirementtransition
I read a number of other mid-life bloggers and often find inspiration in their words. Many of them do an end of the month update on what they have been doing. Similar to a previous blog post,, Deb…| retirementtransition
At the start of this month, Bridget Phillipson made a speech to school leaders from the Midlands, about what she called her “mission” to improve attendance. This is what motivates her, she declared…| John Cosgrove
[editor’s note #1: The title, as usual, is mine, so if it stinks blame me (I’m bad at titles)]. [editor’s note #2: Tomorrow is Friday, so please send mailbag questions!] [editor&#…| Founding Questions
Reproduction of a Side Table designed by Tage Frid – Walnut It’s been over a week since the B-2 strike force, armed with GBU-57 “bunker buster” bombs, took off from Whiteman AFB, flying some crazy mileage to and from sites in Iran (Fordow, Natanz and Isfahan) and dropping some specified load literally down the ventilation … Continue reading The Iran Bombing and the Detox from National Gaslighting| It's About Empathy – Connection Ties Us Together
Life has a funny way of exposing us. When the hurt is fresh and raw, when we’re the ones on the receiving end of unfairness or betrayal, the world feels very black and white. We want the truth in n…| rochemamabolo
“Zen is often associated with the concept of peace, particularly inner peace, tranquility, and a state of calm attentiveness.” I was not Zen this morning at my 9 am doctor’s appoi…| From the Pen Cup
Sometimes, the most successful entrepreneurs I’ve met carry a quiet ache. They’ve mastered the art of showing up, of pushing through, but not necessarily the art of healing. And it shows, not alway…| rochemamabolo
Conversations about special educational needs are already tough and I predict they are about to get even more difficult. Two opposing paradigms are on a collision course. The first holds that devel…| Ben Newmark
There’s a quiet truth we often resist, especially in a world that celebrates self-made success and solo journeys: We need each other. Not out of weakness, but out of design. From a psychological pe…| rochemamabolo
Leaving.. (17 June 2025) The only time I have left my family for an extended period, in 22 years was to volunteer at the London Olympics in 2012. I was away for ten days then. Today I hugged my thr…| Hayley Lever
I want to say that I am ashamed of my behavior yesterday. I let my OCD and apraxia get the best of me. Each time OCD and apraxia get together it spells out disaster for me. At Giant I was baking co…| The Autistic Mind Finally Speaks
There’s something quiet and powerful about the way life humbles you. Not in a loud or dramatic way, but in small, almost unnoticeable turns. It could be the job you thought you’d always have… until…| rochemamabolo
One of the elements I love about retirement is the ability to set up my days to align with my retirement lifestyle vision, which is based on my values and hopefully my natural inclinations and strengths. These past months have been a blur and I felt the need to relook at where I’m spending my … Continue reading A Review of My Time| retirementtransition
Comments on my blog posts, whether actually on my blog comments, on Facebook, or in person, really help me think differently! I thank my readers for giving me new perspectives and pushing my thinki…| retirementtransition
The list of things I’ve tried and failed at is honestly much longer than the list of things that have worked. And I’ve made peace with that. My approach to life and work has always been more like r…| rochemamabolo
Entrepreneurship is often painted as a thrilling ride, full of freedom, innovation, and dreams realised. And while that’s true in part, what’s often left out is the quiet, invisible part of the jou…| rochemamabolo
There’s this quote that I think about often that Life is not measured by time, it is measured by moments. Some are big, but most are small. It reminds us that a long life is not always a full…| rochemamabolo
Pace yourself. Take it easy. You’re allowed to breathe. Building a business isn’t a sprint. It’s not a quick burst of energy, nor is it a race where speed guarantees success. Building a business is…| rochemamabolo
Speak with truth and kindness, when it’s inconvenient. Speak with truth and kindness, when you are under pressure. Speak with truth and kindness, even when it’s uncomfortable. Speak with truth and …| Something to Ponder About
If like me you’re disabled you’ve probably thought about being cured. As I’m blind this would mean having 20/20 vision. I don’t think about it much, but when I do I picture myself on a motorcycle, …| Planet of the Blind
I’ve always been the good girl. The one who “meets or exceeds expectations” in corporate speak. I believe in doing the right thing. I play by the rules; I don’t make waves. I accommodate other’s ne…| retirementtransition
Welcome (or welcome back!) to On the Commons. Here, we explore questions as varied (but related) as: Why are 3 little-known 15th-century papal bulls still being weaponized against Indigenous sovere…| Antonia Malchik
Introduction – World Brain Tumor Day will be celebrated annually on June 8 across the world to raise awareness about the harmful effects of brain tumors and also provide support to those patie…| daneelyunus
If you’re like most organizations, you may have spent a lot of time in the past year processing change: a reorganization, adapting to new priorities, or facing unexpected challenges. In my ex…| Karen Alma
I expect that some may not agree with me, but I want to address my thoughts on RFK’s speech on autism. I haven’t watched it in its entirety, but I did watch a bit of it. One thing I agree with him is that autism is definitely becoming an epidemic. I think it is now […]| The Autistic Mind Finally Speaks
Wendy Hui Kyong Chun Our moment seems marked by cruelty: from best-selling books warning Christians against “toxic empathy” towards immigrant families to online trolls who gleefully torture their v…| In the Moment
Various recent conversations, experiences and developments, positive and negative have prompted me to write this post about #SocialCareFuture, the movement I helped to kickstart and which I still c…| Making rights make sense
A personal essay over the deep comfort of engaging with art studies as a way to distract oneself from stress and grief.| Paula Kuitenbrouwer
Burnout often stems from a lack of purpose and agency, not just workload. Empowering teams with meaningful tasks and autonomy fosters motivation and connection to their work.| Terrible Software
Last fall, my son took a full course load at our local community college. I had a big calendar on the fridge with his college schedule to manage the driving responsibilities and juggle his other ap…| The Autism College Connection
Do you ever find yourself suddenly in a completely different mood and it’s not just a switch up from dance party for 1 to sobbing in bed but consistent? Or more consistent? Because that’s been me lately! And yes, the dance party is also from personal experience too. One random weeknight I was in the … Continue reading A Change Of Seasons| The Caffeinated Bookworm Life
I've struggled with focus earlier this year. I felt pulled in all directions, overwhelmed by the world, and generally miserable. I decided to abstain from using social media for a week to see if anything would change. The Joy of Missing Out was so strong that I ended up staying off social media for 3 whole weeks. I realized that engaging with social media harmed my mental health, and I could develop strategies to improve my relationship with it.| ergaster.org
I read Ava's posts and I found it and interesting question. Ava got to a nice conclusion (no spoilers here) and She made very accurate observation of concrete cases, and I wanted to expand on the topic of this "social maturity".| My honest life
I’ve just listened to Rachel Reeves trying to justify planned cuts to disability benefits on the Today programme by relying on the ‘disabled people want to work and the system writes th…| Making rights make sense
Disclaimer: Trigger warning: depression, talk of suicide. It’s been a while since I wrote a mental health piece — but I think it’s important to occasionally stop, take a breather, and think about h...| fasterthanli.me
I just don't want to like what so recently have been hating.\\\ Things happened in my life and I (my mental health) took a big hit. I went through one of th...| My honest life
“Happy Saint Patrick’s Day,” he whispered out of respect for pounding headaches all around from a hard day of drinking… And Americans drink a lot. The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoho…| On the Flying Bridge
A school taking its pupils ski-ing is wonderful. Neither I, nor I hope anyone else, would ever have a problem with it. What I do, however, have a problem with, a big problem, is a school with the a…| John Cosgrove
“Without reform more people will be locked out of jobs, despite many wanting to work.” – UK Government commenting on an article about increased spending on Personal Independence Payment…| Making rights make sense
Last month I visited a family member in Saint Petersburg, Florida. When I was out walking in the neighborhood, I saw signage for a shop that piqued my curiosity. It offered cannabis products, which…| Letters to Creationists
Faint but there: Moonbow In late 2016, a . . . situation, let’s call it, battered my town. A neo-Nazi site had picked up a disagreement over a local building’s ownership, and the result was months …| Antonia Malchik
I have been absent for awhile – in part because I think my muse is on vacation, and in part because if I post I’d like to have happy, or at least neutral, things to say. I do not want t…| Wanderings of an Elusive Mind
It’s easy to get caught up in where we want to be, as opposed to where we are. For example, when I paint – I get hyper-focused on the end result and forget to notice the process itself.…| Karen Alma
Much of the college search and application process is the same whether your student is neurotypical, has learning differences, or has autism. All families have to make tough choices and fill out multiple applications. Last week, Josephine Vonarburg discussed the application process during our evening webinar. (Link to the YouTube video here). However, families with students […]| The Autism College Connection
Your child could be eligible for financial support from the state and federal government. If eligible, those funds can be used for education, therapy, recreation, day programs, doctor’s appointments, and more. Other funds might go to the parents to coordinate the care of their young adults. Getting through the process is a massive endeavor. It […]| The Autism College Connection
01/15/25: I took this post down a few days ago because upon rereading it, I was not sure that I had really sent the message I wished to. At the time, I was not completely satisfied with it. I had d…| The Beginning At Last
“The social care sector is on its last legs. Without urgent action, there will be nothing left to reform.” Dr Jane Townson, CEO, Homecare Association We begin 2025 much as we have the past decade w…| Making rights make sense
The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline offers support to those in emotional distress. Here’s what happens if you call.| Cleveland Clinic
Last week, NICE echoed its earlier position on the Alzheimer’s drug lecenamab and advised that the benefits of donanemab did not, based on current evidence outweigh the costs of making it available on the NHS concluding that ‘The costs of providing donanemab, including regular infusions and intensive monitoring for serious side effects, balanced against the […]| Making rights make sense
Prevention is first and foremost about saving (and improving) people’s lives, not saving money or hospital bed days. The latter may be a benefit of investing in growing or sustaining people’s wellbeing, if the costs of doing so are outweighed by avoiding the costs of not doing so, but it should not, in my view, […]| Making rights make sense
Franco “Bifo” Berardi We require just a little order to protect us from chaos. Nothing is more distressing than a thought that escapes itself. . . . We constantly lose our ideas. . . . We ask only that our … Continue reading →| In the Moment
This is my second blog on the topic of ‘the meaning of life’. In the first blog, I discussed the difference between meaning-as-intention and meaning-as-significance, and I argued that ‘life’ is rea…| Bernard Andrews' Blog
Last week I was lucky enough to be a guest on Woman’s Hour, discussing the transition that mothers of teens go through, a little like Matrescence (the new motherhood transition), Demetrescence is the metamorphosis that mothers of tweens and teens transition through, which changes them in body and in mind.| Sarah Ockwell-Smith
Serving our communities shouldn’t feel like a life sentence. I spoke to an ex colleague last week. Asking how they were getting on in their second year of headship. I knew them well and had helped …| Old Primary Head
I feel like I am becoming jaded. After we went to the Florida Strawberry Festival, I even said, “Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt”. And yes, I did buy the t-shirt. However, I could have s…| retirementtransition
Hacking The Wetware - Antipatterns| Blind Not Dumb
