The Surprising Power of the Victim Role I had a recent experience and noticed something surprising and more nuanced about the Victim role than I had seen before. I was at a retreat, staying in a community center with several dozen people. The meeting room—used for yoga, meals, and group gatherings—was near one […]| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic
A Simple Practice That Strengthens Connection and Reduces Drama In a previous blog, I wrote about how all events are neutral and only have the meaning we give them. It is our inner Persecutor voice that loves to rush in and judge and blame, whether or not the judgment is true. Observing this inner […]| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic
Without Tearing Yourself Apart In my last blog I wrote about how all events are neutral, that they only have the meaning we give them. It is the voice of our inner Persecutor that is often the first to declare its judgments about a situation. For some people, this inner Persecutor can be […]| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic
When Over-Helping Hurts Everyone Of all the three reactive patterns in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), it is the hyper helper that most aligns with the Rescuer role. Society lifts the helper as a model citizen: generous, selfless, tireless and always willing to help. But what usually lies behind the actions of a […]| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic
How Baby Steps are the Secret to Creating Anything In my last blog I wrote about how to leverage the energy in the gap between what you want and what you actually have. I challenged readers to view this energy as generative rather than as anxiety. When embracing this energy as generative, the next step […]| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic
Most of us know when we’re caught in a reactive loop, but we don’t always realize which role we’re playing in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) roles of| Center for The Empowerment Dynamic