I’m 27 now, and have been in two long term relationships for the better part of the last decade. In the grand scheme of a life, this isn’t much, but it’s been enough for my perspectives on conflict to evolve. For the bulk of this relationship history, I thought that it was unambiguously good to wait until the fires of emotion had settled in order to have a calm, collected discussion about whatever was happening. Oftentimes when I did wait like this, the emotional fires would simmer down...
