It is the perf season at work. We’ve been reviewing our own and each other’s job performance. The reviews will feed into managers’ assessment of our performance which in turns affects whether we will get a raise or a promotion. I struggled a bit with writing the reviews. I realized I haven’t been giving as much feedback as I should have been and now I’ve got a backlog and the perf review is an awkward place to bring up new feedback. Praise is fine, but it’s not fun to get surprise...