my relationship with being gay is a complicated thing. while i am grateful for having ended up in the life i have now. in the past, i've thought of it as a curse, another bullet point to the long list of things that made me different to the people close to me. it puts a big strain on my relationships with others; to reconcile who i am with the jokes and preconceptions that people have about me. at times, it feels like a perverse secret i have to distance people from. i still struggle with the...
