Just feel your feelings!! - by Not Chris Lakin
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Mentor: “…and how do you feel in your body about that?” Old me: “Wait, feelings are supposed to be IN THE BODY?”| chrislakin.blog
chrislakin.blog/locally-optimal has been revised and improved:| Locally Optimal
Listen now (22 mins) | Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and the directional energy we often call masculine, the capacity to feel and yield and the capacity to hold, to follow through. Boundaries, status, society, and truth.| Locally Optimal
Now that Softmax, my favorite new AI company, is public, I can finally share this.| Locally Optimal
Watch now (11 mins) | In a relationship now| Locally Optimal
I run unusual events, so making them go well requires unusual planning.| Locally Optimal
Would you enjoy this one?| chrislakin.blog
Unlearning. Click to read Locally Optimal, by Chris Lakin, a Substack publication with thousands of subscribers.| chrislakin.blog
I resolved the majority of my chronic (3.5y) neck pain two months ago.| chrislakin.blog
Watch now (5 mins) | 6-month follow-up| chrislakin.blog
Watch now (5 mins) | 11-month follow-up| chrislakin.blog
How I discovered I had romantic insecurity| chrislakin.blog
Once upon a time someone asked me, “Where do you feel that in your body?” To which I responded, “What?| chrislakin.blog
“Arghhhh! Conflict. Conflict is hard. Conflict will ALWAYS hard. Hunker down and get used to feeling awful!!!”| chrislakin.blog
You’ve been in therapy for years—so why do you still feel anxious all the time?| chrislakin.blog
There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn the insecurities that trigger your anxiety in the first place so that form of anxiety simply never arises again. Which would you prefer?| Locally Optimal
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.| Locally Optimal
> Whether you’re romantically compatible is predetermined. Flirting isn’t “convincing”, it’s *revealing*| Locally Optimal
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!| chrislakin.blog
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of what you don’t want too. Applies to growth, agency, and even AI safety.| Locally Optimal
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?| Locally Optimal
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?| Locally Optimal
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.| chrislakin.blog
To my client abruptly experiencing a bad day:| chrislakin.blog
One-session cases with 1+ year follow-up data| chrislakin.blog
So I wanted to run a fun party, “Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail.” But I didn’t want eye contact to be forced, I wanted it to be genuinely comfortable.| chrislakin.blog
UPDATED 2025 MAY: At the founding, this service was "100% bounty" — payment literally forbidden until long-term results.| chrislakin.blog
