There are two ways to manage your anxiety. The first one is to learn a bunch of techniques to subdue it every time it comes up. The second is to unlearn the insecurities that trigger your anxiety in the first place so that form of anxiety simply never arises again. Which would you prefer?| Locally Optimal
The goal? Unblock alignment on all scales.| chrislakin.blog
This post has been updated as a twitter thread:| chrislakin.blog
I read The Courage to be Disliked 7+ times in four years.| Locally Optimal
> Whether you’re romantically compatible is predetermined. Flirting isn’t “convincing”, it’s *revealing*| Locally Optimal
Setting boundaries used to feel hard. Like holding up a heavy shield to defend myself — a huge effort!| chrislakin.blog
Listen now | Max and Chris discuss how aiming at what you want gets you more of what you want — and how aiming at what you don’t want gets you more of what you don’t want too. Applies to growth, agency, and even AI safety.| Locally Optimal
Has someone you know ever had a “breakthrough” from coaching, meditation, or psychedelics — only to later have it fade?| Locally Optimal
If you’re unhappy, things and experiences will make you happier… right?| Locally Optimal
There's this popular idea that socially anxious folks are just dying to be liked.| chrislakin.blog
Most of my clients start with a tiny misconception that can wreck their progress.| Locally Optimal
Chris and Joanna riff: The dance between flow and structure, between openness and commitment between the receptive energy we often call feminine, and the directional energy we often call masculine, the capacity to feel and yield and the capacity to hold, to follow through.| chrislakin.blog
Now that Softmax—my favorite new AI company—is public, I can finally share this.| Locally Optimal
Sid spent years trying to unlearn his socially avoidant behaviors with hundreds of hours of meditation, retreats, and 120 hours of IFS therapy, but he didn’t resolve his issue until he spent a few hours talking to me.| chrislakin.blog
I’ve been trying to one-shot my clients’ lifelong issues, and it’s working.| chrislakin.blog
i will briefly be in nyc later this month and running flirt fest: the awkward edition. please send to nyc friends who’d like! i may run some other events in nyc too - subscribe here. email chris@chrislakin.com if you’d like to meet :)| Locally Optimal
Antoine was the first person I ever tried to help in this capacity.| Locally Optimal
Would you enjoy this one?| Locally Optimal
Last summer, Bob came to me with lifelong anxiety that eight years of therapy hadn’t resolved.| Locally Optimal
There’s no way that chronic depression, self-loathing, poor agency, or muscle tension could be optimal… right?| chrislakin.blog
So I wanted to run a fun party, “Make 100% eye contact or get sent to jail.” But I didn’t want eye contact to be forced, I wanted it to be genuinely comfortable.| chrislakin.blog
UPDATED 2025 MAY: At the founding, this service was "100% bounty" — payment literally forbidden until long-term results.| chrislakin.blog
