Glass marbles and a child’s questions about death. The luxury of living slow. All we ever have is the present—until it slips away. If you are in Boston say hi!| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
A jellyfish sting, a rock to the head, and a child struggling to breathe. What begins as a beach camping trip ends in the emergency room. Notes from a tired father.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Couple’s getaway, no kids. Nine women share what happened after they separated. And what about the men — what changes for them after divorce?| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Parenting in a world in crisis. The dissonance between intimate and global. Daily resilience facing hyper-normalized chaos. The idea of heroism as the horizon of fatherhood is unbearable.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
A conversation with Spain’s Malasmadres. Mothers’ burnout. Isolation and exhaustion. The myth of the perfect mother. Shared parenting. The shame of unicorn men. What kind of men do women really want?| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Reflections on six years as the primary caregiver to my two sons while my partner advanced her career. My decision has sparked praise and skepticism. Redefining what it means to be a basic man.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
How do we incorporate care into our identity? Why I am in favour of men who provide care. “It’s not something automatic or instinctive – it takes a lot of reflection, reasoning”.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
You’re not born a parent — you become one. And while having children undoubtedly comes with its costs, could it also bring unexpected benefits?| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Parents throwing punches. The ways we try to coexist. Bill Watterson and ambition. Calvin & Hobbes and the adult world. Do kids worsen our quality of life? Would my mom have lived to 83? Barcelona.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Sexuality, homosexuality, adolescence, and curiosity. Whatever it is we stop ourselves from doing, ends up becoming a way of not feeling — because feeling, too, is seen as something “for sissies”.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Intimate and universal. Presenting two papers in Spain. From the Boom generation to the “padritores”. Partnerships, children, and reshuffling the deck. Adolescence and Severance. Zambra. Beautiful Boy| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
The maternal instinct scam. What changed with fatherhood? That we don’t have sex like before. Seriously? Yes, she doesn’t want to. Why is it like that?| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
When it comes to parental burnout, you don’t have to feel alone or isolated. Theories on how couples make it. A trip out to the cinema, and a wager.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
My son ate a toxic berry—parenting, worry, and the weight of getting it right. Loneliness, the pains we can’t prevent, and small moments that reshape how we see care, responsibility, and resilience.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
“There are no rational answers; there is something that borders on mystery, and fundamentally, being a father or mother reconciles us with the mystery.”| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Saying goodbye to what you love is okay. “Being a parent is humbling.” Guest author Dan Oshinsky.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
We’re not exaggerating, we’re fathering. Moments of terrifying anxiety and – spoiler, because we don’t need suspense here — a happy ending.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
"Since I don’t have a mother, you don’t have a grandmother. You’re leaving me orphaned again, my child, out of pure love." Guest author: Cecilia Sorrentino writes about grandchildren and grandmothers.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
Fragments of 2024. Questions, doubts, challenges. Imaginary friends, linguistic habits, privileges. Reflections and anecdotes. Setbacks in raising children.| Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra
The horrible and the positive aspects of the "terrible twos." From adorable baby to mischievous little goblin. Recipes, frustration, and strategies. A small victory on a chaotic morning.| ipereyra.substack.com
Masculinity, fatherhood and identity crisis. Men and fathers, let’s talk. Click to read Recalculating, by Ignacio Pereyra, a Substack publication with hundreds of subscribers.| ipereyra.substack.com
The guilt gap. Women, “anxious” and “exaggerated”, can you step to the side? Men, “comfortable and relaxed,” step in and do what feels uncomfortable. The gender pay gap, by Claudia Goldin.| ipereyra.substack.com