I've written a lot about the pick-up scene - usually about the negative side of things - but there can be good sides to. One of the things that was the most helpful back when I was in the pick-up scene wasn't what I was learning, but being part of a lair ((Yes, I know. But it's what they were called.)) Now granted lairs had problems in and of themselves, but part of what made it helpful was that it was a place for guys to come together and generally be supportive of one another. There was an...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Back in the bad old days, I did a lot of things I regret out of jealousy. Pretty much from middle-school onwards, jealousy defined the majority of my waking life. Everywhere I looked, other people had what I thought I wanted in life. Watching happy couples would alternately make me feel lonely and almost sick with envy. Watching movies meant watching people with lives - and relationships - that I wished I could have. Of course, it didn't help that I was surrounded by people who seemed to ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Whenever she gets a crush on her friends, the friendship suffers. How can she avoid hopeless crushes when ALL her crushes are hopeless?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
His relationship was great at first. But most of her exes are still around and now he can't stop imagining her in bed with them. What can he do?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
It seems like everyone's trying to be happy. Happiness is constantly marketed to us as a goal that we need to reach. Are you happy? Are you happy right now? No? Well that's a problem! Buy this product and you'll be happy. Drink this. Eat that. Join this club. Live this lifestyle. Buy this book with a special, one-of-a-kind lesson taught from uber-spiritual Lamas. The problem is that happiness is kind of like The Force. You do... or you do not. There is no try. In fact, trying to be happy...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
