I've written a lot about the pick-up scene - usually about the negative side of things - but there can be good sides to. One of the things that was the most helpful back when I was in the pick-up scene wasn't what I was learning, but being part of a lair ((Yes, I know. But it's what they were called.)) Now granted lairs had problems in and of themselves, but part of what made it helpful was that it was a place for guys to come together and generally be supportive of one another. There was an...
