He hates himself for being an older virgin almost as much as he hates other virgins. How can he let go of the hate and negativity and be a better person?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He's an average guy, who doesn't stand out in any way. How is he supposed to find love if women only look for the hottest of the hot?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Years of romantic failure have made him want to give up. How is someone supposed to feel desirable when all evidence says they aren't?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Right now, we are living through the most stressful, even outright traumatic year that most of have ever faced in our lives. Even if you’re in a relatively good place, we’re all getting hit with bad news, more stories of police violence, political corruption, the continuing pandemic, even potential fallout from the election. It can be incredibly hard to have a positive attitude and solid confidence. It can be hard not to look around and say “how am I supposed to have the strength to kee...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
So, I'm gonna do something a little different today. There're some letters I get over and over again. Not from the same person, but variations on an incredibly common theme. There are some letters and topics that come up so often with the same insecurities, often using identical language, that it seems pretty obvious they're coming from the same place, literally and metaphorically. And just between you, me and everyone reading this… it gets a bit frustrating. I mean, it's not like I haven't...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hey Doc, I need your help. I am an incel, but not the kind of incel that comes to mind when you hear or read the word. I am not a hateful incel. I'm simply an incel by the words definition, nothing more, nothing less. As for my major problem, it too is implied by the question, and that question is, 'how do I stop being an incel?' I've exhausted every conceivable strategy to lose the negative mindset, but I'm all out of options and I need someone who knows what to do in a situation such as min...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Dear Dr. NerdLove: Long time, first time, you know the drill. I want you to settle something for me and my friends. We've been arguing about the whole 'who's the most attractive to women' and we're getting nowhere. My position is that women are more attracted to bodies than guys think. I can't on Instagram without seeing my female friends openly drooling over some gym bro with 8% body fat. Meanwhile if you were to ask them, they'd say it's not about their lo...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
I spend a lot of time working with men who want to get better at dating women. This ranges from guys who're trying to recover from a bad break-up, guys who spend so much time in the Friend Zone that they could run for political office there and even men who've never so much as held hands with someone, never mind asked a woman out on a date. In all that time I've noticed something important: The men who struggle the most with dating always — always — ask the wrong question. Every single t...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Every woman he meets on dating apps ghosts him after he tells them what he does for work. Does he need to find a better job or is there another option?| Paging Dr. NerdLove