I've written a lot about the pick-up scene - usually about the negative side of things - but there can be good sides to. One of the things that was the most helpful back when I was in the pick-up scene wasn't what I was learning, but being part of a lair ((Yes, I know. But it's what they were called.)) Now granted lairs had problems in and of themselves, but part of what made it helpful was that it was a place for guys to come together and generally be supportive of one another. There was an...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
The #1 reason why so many men struggle with dating is very simple: they don't know what it takes to be successful with women. Attraction isn't a checklist; having all the right 'stats' isn't going to magically make you attractive to women. Learning to succeed with women isn't about having the right car or the right body, it's about learning how to become your best, most desirable self. That's why this week, I'm going to teach you the 5 things YOU need to know in order to succeed with women, b...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
As someone who's been active on the Internet since 1994 — before there was a World Wide Web, even — I've seen a lot of changes over time. Few, however, have been as significant as the way that online dating has changed. I have seen things you wouldn't believe. Spring Street Personals, shared across Salon and The Onion. Paying to send messages and buying 'roses' to send instead of likes, winks and pokes. I watched major dating sites become infested with zombie accounts and new ones popula...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Well, today was going to be a return to some practical topics. I'd been working on a column about approaching people and being able to talk to strangers. I had all my notes wrapped up, I had the rough outline ready to go… and then, well, you know how to make the gods laugh, right? I was somewhat amused when, as I was searching for one reference or another, I saw that Lifehacker ran a piece on talking to strangers. The timing was felicitous, the resources surprising and the comments… well ...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He wants to leave the incel community, but it's hard to let go. Don't they have a point? How can he learn to let those toxic beliefs go for good?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Ello Doc I've seem to have a very toxic relationship with my own virginity especially my mid 20s. I hate it, I despise it and I distain and frankly honestly want to get rid of this burden that's crushing me like a ton of bricks. Let's be honest it's 2024 and well it's trendy, sex positive (thank you Bumble) and feminist shame, degrade and mock men for being virgins (and their penis size) and kinda understandably so because frankly lotta of male virgins (or i...| Paging Dr. NerdLove