I've written a lot about the pick-up scene - usually about the negative side of things - but there can be good sides to. One of the things that was the most helpful back when I was in the pick-up scene wasn't what I was learning, but being part of a lair ((Yes, I know. But it's what they were called.)) Now granted lairs had problems in and of themselves, but part of what made it helpful was that it was a place for guys to come together and generally be supportive of one another. There was an...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Every man she dates treats her like a therapist or secretary. She has needs and would like support too. How can she get men to see her as a person?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Emotional intelligence is one of those traits that tends to be woefully underdeveloped in men. Call it part of the toxic masculinity package; when things like 'having feelings' are treated as a weakness, men are taught to bottle them up and pretend they don't exist. It's not terribly surprising. After all, what's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear 'get in touch with your emotions'? In all likelihood, it's an absurd image of men sitting in a circle, crying like little girls ((No,...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He wants to leave the incel community, but it's hard to let go. Don't they have a point? How can he learn to let those toxic beliefs go for good?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Estimated reading time: 14 minutes Ello Doc I've seem to have a very toxic relationship with my own virginity especially my mid 20s. I hate it, I despise it and I distain and frankly honestly want to get rid of this burden that's crushing me like a ton of bricks. Let's be honest it's 2024 and well it's trendy, sex positive (thank you Bumble) and feminist shame, degrade and mock men for being virgins (and their penis size) and kinda understandably so because frankly lotta of male virgins (or i...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Ah, I see it's that time of year again. Normally on Fridays, I run questions for Ask Dr. NerdLove and help you — and folks like you — solve your dating dilemmas. But occasionally… well, occasionally I get a letter that requires a much deeper dive than most. And then occasionally I get ones like today's, which happen so regularly that you can actually measure the intervals between them and count down to when I'll get the next. Like the monarch butterflies traveling to Mexico and swallows...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
