The other day, I reread “How Can I Be Attracted to People Who Are Bad for Me, If I’m Not Even “Attracted” to Them?!” by VioletEmerald. I am in awe of what a deep and insightful thinker she is all … Continue reading →| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
A post about looking at sexual orientation as shorthand for potential (in)compatibility, written for the August 2023 Carnival of Aces.| The Ace Theist
Note: if you are reading this after June 8th, 2023 please see a new comment by Kate Wood below. Update March 21st, 2024: the AACAU has now updated the report and posted an apology. Would you be okay with allowing everything you and your community have ever done to be forgotten, like it never even happened? I wouldn’t. […]| The Ace Theist
In this post I’ve compiled a list of basic problems I consider important to flag and look out for, covering some old recurring mistakes as well as cases where there’s still time to nip …| The Ace Theist
Stale bread might seem unappetising when you’re used to a full buffet table, but it’s a lifeline when you’re starving.| Fan Of A Certain Age
This blog has never been just about asexuality, but it was a major topic here for many years, but not so much in recent times. Asexuality isn’t something I think about much anymore. Oh, and the one…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
She left an abusive and intimacy-free relationship only to end up in another relationship where the sex has died. What happened here?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Well, folks, another year has come to a close (yes, yes, that was three weeks ago), and you know what that means: time for a roundup of all the books with ace rep that I read in 2023! This past yea…| Metaphors and Miscellanea
exist. But a lot of sex repulsed aces imagine sex positive aces to be more like sex neutral. “tolerate sex” is sex neutral or just below sex neutral. Open and receptive to the idea of sex. Just noting this.| Eclectic Creative
My exact problem with them, besides their inherent academic masturbation in a circle jerk reaction, is their idea that all aces must be alike and fit the majority when Aces often contradict them, but then the aces that contradict them aren’t considered “reliable sources” only they are, quoting themselves. The idea of a biological imperative for all of sexuality, in of itself is problematic. If there is a biological element, it’s not locked into ideas of things like religion or height...| Eclectic Creative
Doing an anthro paper on asexuality. So depressing. I want to know from aces, why oh why do you even BOTHER talking to Lori Fucking-us-up Brotto. Why do you even let Anthony Bogaert into your spaces when they will not and do not honor asexuality in its full definition and seem to have this deliberate stubbornness not to get it right. I mean, seriously, fuck them. They spent sometimes over 7 fucking long years getting it wrong, then retconning, and then topping it off with still getting it sup...| Eclectic Creative
Editor: Madeline DyerPublication date: October 10, 2023Genre: young adult anthologyMy rating: 4.5/5 stars I first heard about this anthology before it even had a title; the editor, Madeline Dyer, m…| Metaphors and Miscellanea
Rachel Lynn Golden, a clinical psychologist, lays out a plan a provider or parent can follow to have a sex positive talk with teens across the gender and sexuality spectrum.| genderqueer.me
Yes, yes, it’s already more than halfway through March, but I am just now getting around to my annual recap of all the ace books I read last year. I ended up only getting to eight in 2022 (no…| Metaphors and Miscellanea