How Do I Stop Hating Myself For Being A Virgin? - Paging Dr. NerdLove
He hates himself for being an older virgin almost as much as he hates other virgins. How can he let go of the hate and negativity and be a better person?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He hates himself for being an older virgin almost as much as he hates other virgins. How can he let go of the hate and negativity and be a better person?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
You may have noticed over the years that I cover a lot of topics that don't seem to fit squarely in this blog's mission statement of helping nerds date better. One of the reasons why I write about feminist issues or bad behavior within the geek community is because, frankly, getting better at dating is a holistic system. As I'm fond of saying, dating success is 80% attitude and 20% skill, and a lot of that attitude involves both issues of masculinity and also understanding and empathiz...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
On Monday, I talked a little about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men. Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it. And one of the best places to start is to talk about sex. Specifically: male virginity and the shame in not having sex. One of the things that I've seen come up over and over again in the aftermath of the Elliot Rodger shooting is the number of men - men of literally all ages - talking about the shame and pain of being a male virg...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He wants to leave the incel community, but it's hard to let go. Don't they have a point? How can he learn to let those toxic beliefs go for good?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hey Doc, I need your help. I am an incel, but not the kind of incel that comes to mind when you hear or read the word. I am not a hateful incel. I'm simply an incel by the words definition, nothing more, nothing less. As for my major problem, it too is implied by the question, and that question is, 'how do I stop being an incel?' I've exhausted every conceivable strategy to lose the negative mindset, but I'm all out of options and I need someone who knows what to do in a situation such as min...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
He feels like being an older virgin is the worst thing he can be. Is he right? Or is there a bigger problem that he needs to address?| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Hey doc, I'm 23 years old, a guy, and I still haven't lost my virginity yet, and while I've seen some of your stuff on that matter, I still feel like time is 'running out' for me, and I'm worried about how others see me, and moreover how I see myself for it. In summary, I haven't lost my virginity partially because I'm not a big partier and haven't sought out hooking up in the past, and also because I turned down two other opportunities. First, an acquaintance offered to be FWB when I was 20....| Paging Dr. NerdLove
Ah, I see it's that time of year again. Normally on Fridays, I run questions for Ask Dr. NerdLove and help you — and folks like you — solve your dating dilemmas. But occasionally… well, occasionally I get a letter that requires a much deeper dive than most. And then occasionally I get ones like today's, which happen so regularly that you can actually measure the intervals between them and count down to when I'll get the next. Like the monarch butterflies traveling to Mexico and swallows...| Paging Dr. NerdLove
