When I look at online spaces for people with dismissive-avoidant attachment, I was surprised to find how often the word ‘aromantic’ came up. I have never seen that word so much anywhere wasn’t a de…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
La brume l’emportera (2024, ed. Mnémos) Stéphane Arnier, Français One-shot : Fantasy post-apo Couverture : Cyrielle Foucher Dans un monde inexorablement englouti par une brume remontant du pa…| L'Imaginaerum de Symphonie
An introvert in her solitude is not actually alone. The post No Solitude, No Revelation appeared first on Susan Cain.| Susan Cain
We know my dad’s cancer story will end in his death. Unless something else kills him first (infection, bad reaction to chemotherapy, injury due to fall, etc.), he will die by cancer. Though we know the ending, we still don’t … Continue reading →| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
Even during the first interview I did with my dad, it was clear friendship played an unusually small role in his life. Later interviews confirmed it. Never has he named a single close friend, and even when I press him … Continue reading →| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
The other day, I reread “How Can I Be Attracted to People Who Are Bad for Me, If I’m Not Even “Attracted” to Them?!” by VioletEmerald. I am in awe of what a deep and insightful thinker she is all … Continue reading →| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
A few months ago, I noticed that it took me an unusually long time to recall a fact. Then, it happened again, and since then it has been a pattern. Is it aging? Well, maybe, but I didn’t think I … Continue reading →| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
a personal journey of social withdrawal, introspection, and the quest for inner peace amidst modern superficiality| Yuri Cunha
Dr. Kari Jordan from The Carpentries talks about her “aha moment” discovering open source and how teaching Zumba helps her create more welcoming tech communities. Discover the importance of succession planning in creating contribution pathways and the power of grassroots to help keep you going, because open source work is too important to stop.| Open Source Stories
Inviter quelqu’un à la maison est un geste à la portée immense pour moi, tant mon foyer est un reflet soigneusement curé de mon monde intérieur. J’aimerais avoir l’assurance d’une nomade capable de vivre avec juste un sac à dos mais n’en déplaise aux minimalistes, mon univers interne est bien trop fragile et j’ai besoin de points d’ancrage. Chaque objet dont je m’entoure est une attache au rivage, un rempart contre le vertige, un rappel au port. Ouvrir les portes de che...| Hypothermia
A Sijo power casts its shadow cool shelter for those in its favor; yet in that same dark chill cruelty itself takes form and moves; me? I’m most gentle, most human when I keep my shadow short dR…| The Skeptic's Kaddish 🇮🇱
What did I enjoy? Seeing the publication of the Public Design Evidence Review, which explores the role and value of design in the public sector. It includes a section on public design for transformational change for which I was interviewed in 2023. I reckon the things I said back then, alongside other participants who I … Continue reading Weeknote: 14 to 18 July 2025→| Matt Edgar writes here
A visit to one of London’s livery companies with my son What did I enjoy? Getting back to work at the London and Leeds offices in the gorgeous sunshine. I worked at Waterloo on Monday, Canary…| Matt Edgar writes here
How Elixir's runtime code discovery enables safe, discoverable, and UI-driven data cleaning scripts| Lucas Sifoni
On behalf of my nervous system, I apologizeSidewalks and Skeletons – ShadowDon’t you dare go deaf; allow the screamThroat collapsing under oathFeral vespers / Clawing and droolingThe forest never consentedIncarnate / ExcavateWrong shrine, don’t look (please do)Scrape the rot; what’s left?Something’s growing between bark and bonePraying in armour / the rust reeksForgive me for the teeth, there is no neutral touchWhen I said grace / I meant hungerDevotion ≠ Dissolution / How?Let me ...| Hypothermia
I took a whole fortnight off. First proper holiday since the house move. Week 1 floating in the Ionian sea, lying on stoney beaches, scrambling up and down rocky paths, and some inept hire boatmans…| Matt Edgar writes here
Lorsque j’ai avoué à K que je n’avais pas vraiment parlé de lui en thérapie jusqu’ici, j’essayais de lui expliquer qu’il est un espace de sécurité que je ne veux pas encore questionner. Il m’a gentiment rétorqué : « Mais c’est pas comme ça que ça marche ! » Sa réponse m’a anéantie comme l’effondrement d’un dernier refuge. Tout sentiment de sécurité n’est qu’illusion et je n’ai plus nulle part où me cacher (sinon dans mon sens inné pour la dramat...| Hypothermia
In the tech industry, we’re often driven by a relentless pursuit of innovation, efficiency, and growth. I’ve built my career in this space, starting with this very technical blog, leading into organizing public engineering meetups, and eventually in various roles in the tech industry ranging from individual contributor to management. However, my journey wasn’t defined […]| The Smalley Creative Blog
Left unchecked, consumerism has negative implications for our planet and future generations. In this post, we will explore its effects on individuals and society.| The Smalley Creative Blog
This blog has never been just about asexuality, but it was a major topic here for many years, but not so much in recent times. Asexuality isn’t something I think about much anymore. Oh, and the one…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
In this interview, Matthew Immergut, one of the co-authors of The Mind Illuminated, says that they were working on the book, John Yates / Culadasa (the main author) was sick. He’d been sick for yea…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
Bluebells in the garden What did I enjoy? The highlight for me was an event hosted by Leeds City Council and the Cabinet Office’s ‘Test, Learn and Grow’ team to explore a collabor…| Matt Edgar writes here
Happy New Year! The end of one financial year, and the start of another. In the grand sweep of things, this arbitrary boundary shouldn’t matter very much. Yet it still dictates the yearly rhythm of the public service worker, much as it did for the 1700s tenant famer whose rent fell due on Lady Day. … Continue reading Weeknote: 31 March to 4 April 2025→| Matt Edgar writes here
What did I enjoy? After the frustrations of the last month or so, the last full week of financial year 2025/26 brought many gifts: I also enjoyed a morning in an amazing surgery in Surrey watching and chatting with a GP partner who is really making “total triage” work for his patients and his team. … Continue reading Weeknote: 24 to 28 March 2025→| Matt Edgar writes here
A man visiting a health resort is sitting in a steam box. Engraving, May 1869. Wellcome Collection In my most recent weeknote, I promised a blog post… Somewhere in all this between the t…| Matt Edgar writes here
Overall, my meditation journey since I started following the instructions in The Mind Illuminated has been swifter and smoother than I expected in the beginning. Sometimes I think, gosh, if I’d sta…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
A 3-day working week following a long weekend exploring 19th and 20th Century art and architecture in Surrey and Sussex. Highlights for me included Watts Gallery and Charleston. What was hard? The churn of organisation change is already starting to make it harder to make progress on some of our work, especially where we need … Continue reading Weeknote: 19 to 21 March 2025→| Matt Edgar writes here
Camellia in full bloom Monday A series of catch ups with colleagues in the morning, including running through my team’s contribution to the strategic planning event coming up later in the wee…| Matt Edgar writes here
The Mind Illuminated describes ‘dullness’ as one of things people work through in meditation. It’s basically moments when the mind blanks out. It can be ‘gross’ dullness, which leads to sleep, or ‘…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
Trip to Essex for a family celebration I received some anonymous feedback A colleague is apparently quite cross with me for a number of reasons, but one of them I need to address here. My anonymous…| Matt Edgar writes here
J’ai rêvé que je faisais l’expérience volontaire de mourir tous les jours. La méthode était simple, presque clinique : j’entourais ma poitrine d’une large sangle qui se resserrait progressivement d’elle-même. Je ne ressentais aucune douleur, le but était simplement de me compresser suffisamment pour que mon cœur cesse de battre. À ce moment précis, la sangle se relâchait pour me libérer et me ressusciter aussitôt.| Hypothermia
Recently, I received a load of wood chip mulch, and with the help of some awesome neighbors, I moved it to the backyard. That was hard work, y’all. Yet we only moved the wood chip mulch less than t…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
So, last week I published a blog post where I said I expected to stay in The Mind Illuminated’s “stage two” of meditation for at least a few more months. Mere days later, I broke through into “stag…| The Notes Which Do Not Fit
Presenter: Joel Smith, The University of Manchester. Get Joel’s paper Commentator 1: Cheryl Chen, Harvard University Get Cheryl’s commentary Commentator 2: Timothy Lane, Institute of Hu…| Consciousness Online
Reading Time: < 1 minute INTERVIEW ON THE PRICE OF BUSINESS SHOW, MEDIA PARTNER OF THIS SITE. Recently Kevin Price, Host of the nationally syndicated Price of Business Show, interviewed Kathi| USA Daily Standard
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Not being honest with yourself comes at the cost of living up to your full potential. Here are 5 ways to be more honest with yourself.| Tracking Happiness
In which I go over the plans for gobject-introspection| halting problem
In which I explain some changes in the GObject introspection format that landed in GNOME 41| halting problem
In which I introduce a new GObject feature| halting problem
In which I report about the status of gi-docgen| halting problem
Writing documentation is a thankless job, for the most part; writing tools to deal with the documentation is, possibly, even worse. Guess what I just did…| halting problem
As I struggled to make sense of my life as a young multipotentialite, the journals of Søren Kierkegaard seemed to echo my thoughts. It turns out that this nineteenth century philosopher's thoughts on identity and anxiety are more relevant than ever.| Puttylike
There is a “pride”-themed group at work. That group has existed for a| tdotc.eu
