The only sure path to improving your dating life is to improve yourself. But what happens when nobody else seems to notice these changes? Going from the sad sack loser - an 'average frustrated chump' in PUA parlance - to being someone who was confident and at ease with himself and who actually was skilled at meeting women, getting dates, getting laid - took years of work. I had to fight a lifetime of ingrained bad habits, self-limiting beliefs and the adoption of somebody else's identity of ...