Earlier this year, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “10 Women Share What Gets Them In (And Out) Of The Mood The Fastest.” If you check it out, you’ll see some of the specific things that cause certain women to want to get it on vs. some very clear things that make them want to low-key h...| xoNecole
A wise person once said, “Communicating is one thing, but your tone while communicating is everything.”| xoNecole
I don't know who needs to hear this but, you are not (and should not be) the end-all-be-all solution to everyone's problems. Burnout is a real issue among women, and it often stems from overcompensating, over-performing, and overextending yourself until you finally give zero F's and become over it.| xoNecole
As Told To is a recurring segment on xoNecole where real women are given a platform to tell their stories in first-person narrative as told to a writer. If you have a story you'd like to share but aren't sure about how to put it into words, contact us at submissions@xonecole.com with the subject "As Told To" for your story to be featured. This is Chelsea Woody's story, as told to Charmin Michelle. I'm a Black woman with a full afro, and I surf. I wanted to learn to surf since I was a teenager...| xoNecole
As we’ve entered a new year, it’s time to shed the burdens of the past and prepare for a new chapter in our lives. For me, this season of my life is about allowing - letting go of the baggage of the past and all anxiety about the future. We often hear about “detachment” in the context of “not caring...| xoNecole
A significant part of becoming a woman is developing a deep understanding of who we truly are. However, societal expectations to be kind, meek, and palatable often stifle our boldness before it fully emerges. For author, content creator, and wellness advocate Shelah Marie, growing up as the only Black person in her household and often feeling pressured to shrink herself ultimately motivated her to embrace her most authentic, confident, and "unruly" self—the version she proudly embodies toda...| xoNecole
To everything, there is a time and a season. King Solomon once said that — and I appreciate him for it because it’s a reminder that, just like earthly seasons come and go, whether we want them to or not, the same happens for seasons in life. And what this means is, at the end of the day, all we can do is prepare. What’s wild about this pearl of wisdom as it relates to today’s topic is, several years ago, I literally penned an article for the platform entitled, “Did You Know Fall & W...| xoNecole
Although I wouldn’t exactly say that Mark Zuckerberg is one of my favorite people on the planet (at all),The Social Network — the movie that was made about him (and Facebook) back in 2010 — absolutely is. I like the writing, the wit, the quickness of it all. Plus, stories that talk about how ingenious concepts began always have a way of piquing my interest — and boy, when that man came up with Facebook and then decided to add relationship categories to the platform? I mean, who doesn...| xoNecole
At this point, I’m pretty sure that all of us have heard the opening line of a poem by Brian A. “Drew” Chalker, which says, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.” Personally, I think that relationships move a lot better (even the ones that end) when you seek out the PURPOSE (more than the reason) for why someone enters and exits…yet that’s another article for another time. Seasonal relationships — or as we’re going to discuss today, seasonal frie...| xoNecole
According to Miguel, his forthcoming album CAOS (out October 23) is his angriest, horniest, and most relatable body of work yet. In the eight years since the release of his last studio album, War & Leisure, the Grammy-winning artist has weathered the storm of a very public divorce, stepped into fatherhood, and even contemplated walking away from music altogether. In a recent interview with The Breakfast Club, the "Banana Clip" vocalist gave fans an intimate glimpse into his process of endings...| xoNecole
For most of my adult life, I have been a fan of Ayurveda. The main reason why I appreciate it so much is because it’s an Indian-based holistic approach to medicine that focuses on the fact that keeping one’s system in balance is the key to optimal health and overall well-being. In fact, the word “Ayurveda” actually means “the science [or knowledge] of life” in Sanskrit. Because Ayurveda is big on properly harnessing and utilizing one’s energy as well, it’s important to know th...| xoNecole
Emma Grede is no stranger to success. She is the founding partner of the shapewear brand SKIMS, co-founder of the denim brand, Good American, and co-founder of the plant-based cleaning brand, Safely. The British entrepreneur made history as the first Black woman investor on Shark Tank, and she recently launched her podcast, Aspire, where she interviews other inspiring entrepreneurs and leaders. --- Recently, the mom of four shared a TikTok listing practical, healthy habits she lives by. "They...| xoNecole
After starring in the Emmy Award-winning comedy series, The Bear, Ayo Edebiri's name was suddenly on the lips of everyone. Her quirkiness made her ridiculously charming, and her style is one-of-a-kind. She's racked up countless awards as Chef Sydney Adamu in the FX series and has gone on to star in films like Opus and After the Hunt. Ayo recently covered Vogue and dove into her life in LA, how she prepares for roles, and whether she's open to starting a family soon. “I think about it quite ...| xoNecole
Time is fleeting, thus we can never get back. That’s why it’s important to use time wisely. Not just in terms of procrastination, but using it for meaningful conversations, cultivating relationships, and celebrating moments, big or small. --- Hyatt’s Inclusive Collection partnered with Wakefield Research to release their Time Rich Report, which is a study that showed that 82% of Americans feel as though they aren’t getting enough time with their loved ones. When it comes to couples, 3...| xoNecole
Nana Twumasi, a Ghanaian-American, Brooklyn, N.Y.-based writer and editor, has etched a niche in the wellness and self-help publishing space, an intriguing move to mesh her love of information with her creative acumen as a writer’s editor. The Oberlin College and California College of the Arts graduate has written prose and nonfiction work that has been published in various literary journals, and she’s an early disruptor in the wellness and psychology publishing space, with roles at Calli...| xoNecole
If you read the title of this and felt like it might be some low-key clickbait, that is absolutely not the case. The reality is, according to quite a bit of extensive research, although orgasms can last anywhere from 10-60 seconds, if we were to break things down by gender, in general, men’s orgasms usually last somewhere around 22 seconds while women’s orgasms last somewhere around 13-15 seconds (for many). And since the average commercial is 30 seconds long — well, there ya go. This i...| xoNecole
After a year of speculation, Kamie Crawford is finally sharing her side about what went down with former Catfish co-host, Nev Schulman. Last October, the former beauty queen surprised fans when she announced her decision to leaveCatfish: The TV Show after six seasons. Many viewers credited her for the resurgence of the series, living for her quotable moments, her nuanced takes, and her ability to advocate for and empathize with victims. She added a freshness to the show that was definitely ne...| xoNecole
At 25, Chase Infiniti is no doubt a Hollywood star on the rise. In fact, her co-star in the Paul Thomas Anderson film One Battle After Another, Leonardo DiCaprio, called her "the heart" of the film, no small compliment, given it's only her second role to date, following her breakout opposite Jake Gyllenhaal in the Apple TV+ limited series Presumed Innocent. It's the career trajectory an artist at the start of their career can only dream of, and sis is living it. Chase is putting in the work, ...| xoNecole
I never imagined a life without children, but here I am, a single, 41-year-old childless lesbian, planning my next big adventure, while others post cute, back-to-school photos of their kids on social media. The shift in perspective occurred after years of pressure from myself, as well as from the people in my environment. "Marsha, you're the last of the cousins without a child. What's up?" my male cousin questioned. Back then, my throat chakra wasn't as strong as it is now. So, instead of exp...| xoNecole
I like being a — pardon the pun — sponge when it comes to — pardon the pun again — absorbing information. For this reason alone, I’m not ashamed in the least to admit that it wasn’t until just a few months ago that I even knew that there was such a thing as a menstrual sponge in the world. Yet, before even getting into all of that, after also learning that the terms sea sponge and menstrual sponge are basically used interchangeably, I was curious to know if a sea sponge can hook a...| xoNecole
There is something that you should always keep in mind when it comes to your hair and scalp — they aren’t exactly like the rest of your body. What I mean by that is, as far as your hair is concerned, what’s inside of your hair follicle is living (which is why you can feel it when you pull a strand of hair out of your head); however, the rest of your hair? It’s dead (which is why you don’t feel it whenever you cut it). And your scalp? If you ever hear “it needs to breathe” — we...| xoNecole
Lee Litumbe is used to being synonymous with the phrase "travel goals." One look at her feed and it's a visual anthology of serene blues, earthy greens, and vibrant whites, reds, and yellows. You're instantly transported to where she is at that moment, whether it's the rust colored sands of the dunes in the Namib Desert or the aquamarine waters of Cape Town, where she is currently based. It's perhaps one of the many reasons Lee Litumbe has seen her life and her work flourish in the culminatio...| xoNecole
The fact sadly remains that the presence of Black women leading in multinational companies remains scarce. Despite decades of conversations about diversity, equity, and inclusion, the numbers are still sobering. According to recent figures, only 4.4% of management professionals are Black women, and 1.4% of them hold C-suite roles. There are several barriers to landing those roles that have little to do with capability or education, from systemic challenges related to race, to career and cultu...| xoNecole
February might be in the rearview, but love is most definitely still in the air as the gworls are getting wifed up left and right. We love love over here at xoNecole, and 2025 is already shaping up to be a year full of celebrity engagements. Zendaya had the innanet in a chokehold when she kicked off award season flashing a stunning rock on her ring finger, and even more recently, actor Keith Powersannounced his engagement to long-time partner Ryan Destiny. --- As more of our faves take that n...| xoNecole
Earlier this year, while talking to a married couple about how their sex life was going, the wife brought up something that, believe it or not, I’ve been asked several times before: “I don’t know if it’s all in my head or not but there are times when [my husband] devours me and then there are times when he is less enthused.” When I waited for the husband to confirm or deny, at first, it took him a second: “I’m always going in. Sometimes I’m confused because it tastes different...| xoNecole
Definitely one of my favorite writers is the famed poet Rumi, and one of my favorite things that he has ever said is, “What you seek is seeking you.” To me, it complements another quote by the best-selling author Paulo Coelho extremely well: “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Okay, but what happens if what you are thinking that you might want has something to do with a close guy friend of yours? Even deeper, what if you’re not ex...| xoNecole
I'll never forget the moment I found out my ex cheated. Knowing another woman lingered in our home while I was committed to our relationship was the most violated I have ever felt. All I could think about was "her." How her lips touched our wine glasses. Her body slept in the bed we shared. Her moans echoed in the home where we once said, "I love you." I could almost smell her perfume. It was the perfect formula to make any woman see red. My anger took over our once-happy home. --- You can im...| xoNecole
What does it really mean to "have everything"? I suppose it depends on what you define as everything. From achieving your goals to living the life you didn't have as a child to living unapologetically, having everything isn't always qualified and quantified by material things. This way of thinking is related to the minimalist lifestyle – an existence that is rooted in happiness when living with less. For minimalists, they value experiences over possessions. --- Minimalism is not for the fai...| xoNecole
October is about the power of attraction. This is the month to set your intentions, create space for a new beginning, and find your balance between the past, present, and future. There aren’t many astrological transits this month, signaling more possibilities in the air and an opportunity to create that which you desire. We begin the month in Libra Season, and Libra Season is always the time of year when love is the highlight. With Juno also entering Sagittarius on October 1, right as we be...| xoNecole
They say heartbreak can be your greatest teacher if you let it, and Apryl Jones most certainly lets it do its thing. The 38-year-old actor and media personality has kept it cute and rarely on mute about the fact that her very public relationships have also meant she's been through the ringer a few times in love. Through the pain and challenges, the mother of two has clearly done the work, which is why she can look back at her past relationships with reflection rather than reactivity. --- The ...| xoNecole
Now that my favorite season has arrived, I had to make sure that I shared at least one article on the topic of teas — because if there is one thing that is super soothing to the soul (that also has proven health benefits), it’s a hot cup of herbal tea (with a teaspoon of honey in it). The reason why...| xoNecole
A few months ago, I checked out a feature that Complex did on actor and artist Mack Wilds. It all centered around effective time management and how Mack is able to accomplish so much in the same 24-hour time frame that we all have. The entire article was good. Two things stood out the most: how he h| xoNecole
When I graduated from business school (believing full well I would never use that degree in its intended capacity…or at all), I was always chasing something. At times it was a fat salary because…hello? Other times, I was sprinting, trying to catch up to clout, wanting a title and awards so I could b...| xoNecole
I've never been a person who thrives on routines or waking up early, and I know I'm not the only one. But we can do a few things in the morning to help us get a good start to the day. Ayurvedic medicine, also known as Ayurveda, is an ancient form of Indian medicine that has been practiced for thousa| xoNecole
Believe it or not, even in this tough U.S. economy, there are fast-growing careers to explore that pay a decent salary and don’t require an advanced degree. These jobs are often also less likely to be at risk of becoming obsolete due to the advancements of AI. Resume Now analysts reviewed data from ...| xoNecole
Performing at our absolute highest has been the most important thing to and about Black women for ages. Papa Pope told Olivia, “We have to be twice as good…” and the rest of us felt that. Deeply. But what happens when you’re not performing at your highest level in your work, relationships, and just ...| xoNecole
In 2016, Shaina Wiel started a simple group chat with friends and colleagues in the New York sports industry. What began as a space for professionals of color in sports to share resources and opportunities blossomed into the Minorities in Sports Business Network, a thriving community of more than 1,...| xoNecole
